The Cultural Underpinnings of Same-sex Marriage

The crusade for gay marriage will continue its virulent, triumphant march through the elite circles of law, entertainment, politics and academy because it is supported by four deep-seated, unquestioned cultural values or dogmas which are themselves even more toxic than the sterile, infectious acts they sanctify: the romantic myth of the "lover who will make me whole;" the separation of sex and new life; the deconstruction of gender; and individualism. The first, strongest, most influential and misleading myth is "there is another person, a romantic partner, a lover who will make me whole." Anyone who is really married should laugh at this powerful and pervasive deception, but instead we cling desperately to the belief; we long relentlessly for the perfect love object; and we wander, like Mickey Rooney and his 8 wives (may he rest in peace), in a fog of serial infidelity. And so, the logic determines, if I as a man can seek my happiness in the arms of my female "soul partner" (surely the stupidest concept imaginable!), why cannot a man find happiness with a man? The second secular dogma that cannot be questioned is the separation of sex, love and fertility that was definitively established by the immediate and complete cultural take-over by contraception in the 1960s. This disastrous divorce condemns sex to sadness, purposelessness and despair. But equal opportunity demands that if men and women can misuse each other in this way, why can't men do the same with men and women with women? The third cultural force is the deconstruction of masculinity and femininity. Increasingly and tragically, our young especially males, are incapable of seeing the form, the gestalt, the interiority of virility as fraternal, generous, paternal, chaste, courageous and heroic or that of femininity as virginal, fresh, receptive, loving, bridal and maternal. If you do not see this, I cannot help you! If you cannot see this, the deepest joy, thrill and purpose of human sexuality are all lost. If you cannot see this, then of course you think that men can marry men. Lastly, the religion of the USA, especially the young, is individualism. We see an emergent economic, diplomatic libertarianism of right and a corresponding sexual liberalism of the left infecting our young. Rick Warren, in his best-seller, recognized this when he started it with: "It is not about you." And so, gay militance is being carried by a perect storm, a tsunami of cultural confusion. But it will only progress so far before it hits a wall. The Church and common sense are clear about the toxicity of this way of life. Eventually the facts will emerge and science will catch up with faith and the intuitions of the ordinary citizen. In the meantime, Russia's tyrant Putin has unexpectedly positioned himself as the world's champion on behalf of traditional marriage against the corruption of the West. He has the entire continent of Africa and most of the world with him. In the long run, this infatuation with sterile sex will be a blip of insanity in the flow of history. We are losing in the short term. We cannot lose in the end.