Saturday, November 16, 2024

The Feminine Voice and Intellect: Confessions of a Catholic Philogynist

There is nothing like a dame...nothing in the world...there is nothing you can name...that is anything like a dame.          Rogers and Hammerstein, "South Pacific"

I fell into a burning ring of fire.     Johnny Cash

It will not surprise you, dear Reader, that your Fleckinstein has been accused of being "patriarchal" and so, however unintentionally, misogynist. The reality is entirely different: an extreme love of women, even approaching adoration. Why such intense attraction? Admiration? Delight? Obsession? Desire? Tenderness? It is in part temperamental: we see in many young ones a pronounced attachment to the mother or father, to women or men. But most responsibility goes to my own mother, a woman of exceptional beauty, inner and outer, and generosity. She mothered me wonderfully. Additionally, I have been very loved by very many very good women. And so, in every encounter with a woman, (not excluding psychopaths, borderlines, criminals) I have zero capacity for sustained suspicion, resentment or malice as I resonate with radiant positivity, quiet euphoria, serenity, trust and impulsive generosity. Eve's sin I personally blame on the passivity and neglect of Adam. And so you see here the root of my boundless contempt for Cultural Progressivism: it denies the iconic loveliness of the feminine as well as the heroic nobility of genuine virility. Granted I have suffered more than my share of toxic gynephilia, understood here as disordered attraction to women, rooted in concupiscence, that is needy-selfish-lustful-covetous-sterile-ungenerous. But one of the joys of aging within the sacramental embrace of our maternal Church is the slow but steady diminishment of those disordered cravings and the purification and intensification of wholesome philogyny as generous, fraternal, paternal, free and fruitful. 

Whitney Houston, Barbara Streisand, Maria Callas, Julie Andrews, Cher, Amy Grant, Taylor Swift, Joan Baez, Celine Dion...What is it about a woman's voice? Indescribable! Delightful, abundant, generous, resonant with emotion, at once earthly and heavenly, inspiring, mystical and miraculous, down-to-earth, heartbreaking, lucid, iconic, comforting, inebriating and yet sobering.

Similarly, in these my "golden years," I clearly prefer woman writers and thinkers, in all my areas of interest: spirituality, theology, psychology, philosophy, culture and even politics. My favorites:

Contemporary: Heather King, Tracey Rowlands, Mary Anne Glendon, Mary Harrington, Patricia Snow, Abigail Favale, Mary Eberstadt, Mary Healy, Rhonda Chevrin, 

Late 20th Century:  Dorothy Day, Mother Teresa, Catherine de Hueck Doherty, Adrienne von Speyr, Madaleine Del Brell, Caryll Houselander, Elizabeth Anscombe, Elizabeth Moberly, 

Early 20th Century:  Edith Stein, St. Faustina, St. Elizabeth of the Trinity, Elizabeth Leseur, Flannery O'Connor, Etty Hellison, Sigrid Undset, Hannah Arendt, Simone Weil.

My own intellect is very masculine: abstract, detached, clear, certain, prosaic, sober, authoritative, transcendent of emotion, comprehensive, assertive, combative, philosophical. So it needs the balance of the feminine intellect which is: contemplative, receptive, intuitive, sensitive, engaged, corporeal, synthetic, compassionate, artistic, fluid, organic, inclusive, refined, conciliatory.

 In accord with nature and Providence, the paternal and maternal complement and complete each other. The tragedy of our society is that we are both fatherless and motherless. Certainly we are not "patriarchy" in the sense of ruled by fathers. Rather, our culture is permeated by a disordered, toxic, diminished "masculinity" of technological control-abstraction-detachment, devoid of the feminine as natural, organic, receptive, communal and contemplative. And so, for example, mainstream feminism itself is a flight from the feminine in its competitive, jealous mimicry of disordered masculinity as sexual license, careerism, power-status envy, and individualism.

We find something entirely different in the internal life of the Marian, which is to say maternal, Catholic Church. Balthasar has taught us that the Marian (feminine, receptive, contemplative, unitive) influence is superior to the Petrine (masculine, hierarchical, apostolic).  And so, virile, priestly, apostolic authority that is authentically Catholic is never a mimicry of the power dynamics of the techno-dominant world, but rather placed under the influence of Mary, Queen of angels and saints, Mother of Christ and all of us. Genuine paternity is strong, stable, certain and is the fruit of the seed of the filial position of being both held and liberated by the loving Mother.

Carl Jung taught that in the second half of life the recessive, hidden aspect of the personality (the anima)  emerges so that the assertive male manifests feminine aspects previously camouflaged. This makes a great deal of sense. In any case, within Catholic life, reception of the feminine or Marian influence is essential to the maturation of fruitful paternity.  On that note, we end prayerfully:

We place ourselves, Mary our Mother, under the mantle of your holiness, your purity, your tenderness, your beauty and your love.

 


Friday, November 15, 2024

Pro-Life in USA 2024: A Culture of Virile Chastity

 Who is it that has led the pro-life movement for the last half century? Who runs the pregnancy centers, the Marchs on Life, the literature? All women! The pro-life movement has not been fueled primarily by career politicians, nor by bishops, nor by males, chaste or unchaste. But by women. This movement is the authentic feminism of our age: the passionate, profound, persistent, maternal drive to nourish, cherish and protect the innocent, vulnerable, powerless.

Who really benefits from legal abortion? Unchaste, indulgent, irresponsible men who can use/abuse women and then manipulate them to destroy the child conceived. Violation of the sixth commandments leads directly to violation of the fifth: fornication/adultery lead to murder. Remember David, Bathsheba and her murdered husband Uriah?

Militant sexual progressivism has contrived the protection of the unborn as masculine control of the feminine body. This is an inversion straight from hell. It is abortion that violates the feminine body. This lie was the singular coherent thought of the recent Harris campaign: she proclaimed it obsessively, passionately, indignantly, self-righteously. She was indecisive, confused and incoherent in all things; but about abortion she was shrill, impassioned and condemnatory. She presented as the heroic, noble figure saving women from the violent control of evil, Trumpian men.

The gullible swallowed this in huge doses. Good, devout, otherwise intelligent Catholic women become furious as they entertain this paranoid, delusional obsession. They rage; become depressed and anxious about the new president. They throw themselves into a convoluted, demon-inspired gender war.

In fact, there have been more abortions since Dobbs, due largely to the availability of pills. Most of the state initiatives protecting abortion have passed.

In fact, the Trump campaign, in contrast with the Harris-abortion-obsession, has taken abortion off the table of national politics. This is a prudent policy on several levels. For one, it helped him win the election as we know voters in key states voted for pro-abortion initiatives and also for Trump: they understood the distinction. But at a deeper level, the return of abortion to the states is very good for our country. For the last half century, it has been the single most polarizing issue in the nation. Most political issues are negotiable: taxes, border policy, climate, guns, etc. But the value of the life of the embryo and "reproductive rights" are absolutely contradictory; there is no compromise. It is good that we battle this out on the state level and return our national politics, hopefully, to a degree of civility and cooperation.

Catholic progressives enhance their self-righteousness in voting prochoice by condemning Trump's support for life as insincere. They presume to judge his heart and soul, rashly and hatefully. We do better to leave that judgment to God and consider his objective record. It is mixed. Formerly he was prochoice. Recently he has, in apparent ignorance, embraced the freezing of IVF embryos. His record is mixed; he seems to mirror the majority of Americans who are ambivalent. I think there are about 20% passionate on both sides of the issue; about 60% are conflicted or unsure. Nevertheless, from the perspective of the unborn, he is the best friend they ever had!

Today we know about the marital infidelity and adultery of liberal heroes JFK, MLK, Clinton and others. Trump is in this club; but he is not in the major leagues like them. His deep narcissism draws his libidinal energies towards himself and leaves less available for even a physical craving of the feminine. They share with the many conservative adulterers and fornicators the value of hypocrisy: they tried to hide their wrong doing and not directly influence others to sin. Jesus said: "It would be better for you to have a millstone around your neck and be thrown into the sea than to lead these little ones into sin." Sins of the flesh are mortal and serious: against the possibly conceived, against the sacred feminine body, and against one's own dignity as a temple of the Holy Spirit. But leading others into sin is far worse. Consider Joseph Kennedy, the patriarch, father of JFK and RFK: he inducted his own sons into infidelity and lust. I can hardly conceive a deeper place than his, in purgatory or hell we cannot know...but it doesn't look good for him. In this November, month of the souls, let's give him a chance and pray for his soul, and his entire family, and his companions in sin. 

With Dobbs we see that our society, under Roe for half a century, has become overwhelmingly, even substantially pro-abortion. This is because in the Cultural Revolution of the 1960s our society, in critical mass, rejected the sixth commandment: Thou shall not commit adultery. And the ninth: Thou shall not covet thy neighbor's wife. The new dogma: sex is not essentially conceptive. It is relational, recreational, relieving, expressive...it is not about babies. In this world, abortion is absolutely necessary as back-up contraception.

Another lie from the pit of hell: responsible use of contraception avoids abortion. The opposite is true: the decision to engage sexually but reject conception is already a choice to destroy the offspring that comes so often as the method is far from perfect. A "contra-ceptive" society  is already, essentially, an abortive society. We see that clearly after Dobbs. The epidemic of porn-fueled sexual addiction, the breakdown of marital fidelity as our moral norm, the embrace of unchastity...all of this is the root cause of abortion.

Political and legislative efforts to eliminate abortion in such a culture are largely futile. Indeed, they may themselves provoke stronger pushback as in the aftermath of Dobbs. This does not mean that we abandon the unborn. No, we need to defend them prudently with the resources at hand.

Each state is now a distinct battleground. Nationally we will have to deal with issues about funding and support for abortion overseas. But the real action properly happens at the state level. We cannot win the war across the culture.

What we must do is defend our own way of life: absolutely refuse to directly support abortion (as well as contraception, IVF, trans surgery and all the artificial technologies) ourselves directly. Our tax and insurance money cannot be used for evil purposes. Harris clearly stated that  "reproductive rights" are absolute and allow no exemptions: she would coerce Catholic doctors, nurses and hospitals to perform abortion, trans operation and the the entire litany of degradation. This we must fight passionately.

"Love chastity" Saint Benedict said. Yes! Love chastity. This is the heart of a prolife culture. Even as we suffer our own weakness of the flesh...lust, covetousness, isolation, jealousy, anxiety, depression, self-hatred, compulsions, bad habits...let us encourage each other in love of chastity. We are dealing with often constitutional weakness, with the allure of the world, and the hyper-intelligence of the devil! But we are immersed in the very Body of Christ; we are ourselves Temples of the Holy Spirit; we have the efficacy of the sacraments, the guidance of the Church, and the example of the saints, many of them around us. Come Holy Spirit!


Saturday, November 9, 2024

Do I Have Concerns About Another Trump Administration?

I was happy to receive this question from a family member who offered it in a good spirit: along with a congratulations on our victory, in genuine curiosity, and (I think) with real grief. He, along with most of my family of origin, is deeply troubled by realities like the plight of immigrants, global warming, and the violence of January 6. I share these concerns.  But they are not my top priorities.

My deepest concern with Trump is one, but has three aspects. It deals not with policy or governance so much as morals and culture, the deeper dimension of politics. It is what made me as a "never-Trump-conservative" and a "double-hater"  abstain for the previous two elections. These views have not changed, but have been overwhelmed by the stronger negatives of Biden/Harris.

1. Decadent moral example: for all of us, but specifically my grandchildren. EVERYONE is a moral exemplar; and especially those in positions of leadership, status and power. No one more than our President! I passionately rejected the public/private distinction that allowed many to accept Bill Clinton after his scandalizing dalliance. The private and the public are not separate; they influence one another. Above all, I despise Trump's shameless disrespect for people: women, immigrants, his political enemies. Secondly, his almost absolute disregard for Truth. Thirdly, his uncamouflaged, all-pervading narcissism makes him largely unfit for this position.

2. Along similar lines: the ongoing Trump Performance has badly damaged, not our democratic political institutions, but our culture and morals. Since the 1960s our society has been in catastrophic moral decline. Trump rides that wave and has intensified it: scandalous disrespect for people, disregard for truth, sexual license, crude and insulting language. He makes our society morally worse by his example and behavior.

3. Polarization of the left/right: Again, he did not invent this, but he has benefited from it and intensified it. The mutual suspicion, fear, resentment, and contempt across the divide is becoming worse. Trump deliberately inflames this. There is a real demonic quality to this mutuality and it is effective on both sides of the aisle. That is why I welcomed the question, offered in respect.

Regarding his egotism and potential for abuse of Presidential power I am not greatly concerned for three reasons.

1. Ross Douthat is right: he is not a power broker; he is a vain, self-centered man, desperate for attention. My daughter said "He is not a fascist; he is a big baby." He has little interest in policy, ideology and power. He wants everyone's attention. He is an entertainer; he is performing for the crowd. What he says is not to be taken literally; it is entirely histrionic, performative, attention-seeking.  In his four years of power, he did not maximize it. For example, a real tyrant would have used the covid emergency as an opportunity to monopolize power: he let the states do their thing and deferred to Fauci.

2. He surrounds himself with good people, he delegates to them, he defers to them as he himself lacks strong inner convictions. This is what has made him successful on such a grand scale. Paradoxically, he has a certain humility in that he does not claim expertise but defers to others with specific competence. For example, unlike the arrogant Biden who was sure of his competence about Afghanistan, he would not have overruled his generals and pulled out of there with such devastation.

3. Lastly, our basic institutions are resilient, rooted, stable and resistant to someone so unfocused, unhinged, and infantile. He was restrained by his own advisors but also by establishment Republicans, the courts, the Democratic opposition, and the durability of our institutions. His election denial was rejected by all kinds of courts and most Republicans (notably Bill Barr). The alleged "insurrection" was overcome in a few hours and the actual election validated immediately, by both parties, with his own Vice President presiding. 

With regard to policy, I am not Trumpian but have a number of concerns. 

1. In foreign policy, I am myself a strong internationalist, not an isolationist. But it is undeniable that the world enjoyed four years of peace in his term. That was, in my view, mostly good luck. But his contribution to it was not nothing. His unpredictability, I do believe, gave pause to bad actors like Iran and Russia. He showed a strong hand that they feared. The Abrahamic Accords are historic accomplishments and will hopefully be strengthened. His policy on Iran was correct. He correctly forced our NATO allies to pay more of a fair share. Going forward he does well to mute his "America First" chant and build strong alliances in all arenas: Europe, but even more in the Middle East and the Pacific. His infatuation with strong man dictators is troubling and distracting. But I hope that that is more of a personal hobby and does not set real policy. I share his pro-Israel position on Gaza and Lebanon. I strongly support the Ukraine and find that Biden did too little too late; but I think the time is right now for him to force both sides to the table.

2. Economically he talks populism, but his tax policy favored the rich and increased the debt and therefore inflation. He won the election because of inflation (along with other factors); but in my view he contributed to it as much as the Biden over-spending. He was rewarded; Harris was punished. Such is politics. My hope is that the new Catholic-friendly populism of Vance will have influence and help the lower working class.

3. He is absolutely right about the need for a controlled border. But I do despise his negative rhetoric about immigrants. It is inconceivable, impossible, that he would deport millions of law abiding illegals. What he will do, correctly, is deport the criminal element.

With regard to energy, tariffs, guns and many issues I am somewhere between the parties and satisfied that neither side is able to entirely prevail. 

Almost all of my children voted for neither candidate as "double haters." I am proud of them for that. I am greatly relieved at the defeat of Kamala Harris. But that does not eliminate my moral contempt for the performative person of Trump; my sorrow at the sadness of so many dear friends and family; and especially my regret at the divide that has come between us.

So again I am grateful for the question and the spirit in which it was offered.

Friday, November 8, 2024

The Moral Rot at The Core of The Democratic Party: Desecration of Femininity and Masculinity

Biden/Harris is a replication, a mimesis of Adam/Eve, Ahab/Jezebel, father/stepmother of Hansel and Gretel: weak, passive, negligent man and hateful, shrill, destructive woman. This is the heart and soul of Progressivism, the DNC.

Apart from her "Trump-is-Fascist-Paranoid-Hysteria," Kamala had a single thought: Abortion. She was vague and vacuous on every issue, but crystal clear on legalized abortion. In her debates, interviews and speeches she would put you to sleep with her empty, meaningless nonsense; but when she spoke about abortion she changed entirely: passionate, indignant, certain, furious, self-righteous! She truly is a one-issue politician, an abortion fanatic! She will hear nothing about "leave it on the state level:" she will tolerate no exemptions for religious reasons. The mother's right to kill her unborn is ABSOLUTE.

Politics is always, among other things, defense of the sacred. For Kamala and the DNC there is one thing above all that is sacred: "reproductive rights."

Abortion however is downstream of, a consequence of a more fundamental progressive dogma: contempt for virility as paternity ("patriarchy") and femininity as maternity. Militant femininity despises paternity/femininity as iconic of the Trinity and reconfigures the human as an androgynous, isolated monad...an "individual."  When you reconstruct the person as a degendered individual, you do not create a neutral, abstract reality, you design a monster, a perversity, a Frankenstein. You create a pathetic, feeble, emasculated male; and a shrill, hateful, destructive female. Both are entirely repulsive...morally, spiritually, viscerally, personally.

This creed is Anti-Catholicism. What is sacred for the Catholic? Every human life, particularly the most defenseless, powerless, diminutive. And facing this little, vulnerable one is the iconic love of Mother and Father. And so, Cultural Progressivism and Catholicism mutually despise each other. 

Donald Trump's victory in 2016 (I wrote at the time) was in part an unconscious yearning for a father figure. Trump is a perverse father figure, but he is a father figure: strong, assertive, paternal. In a dangerous world of ferocious war lords, you want him in your corner. Those who sanctimoniously despise him might consider that his is an intact, loyal family; contrast this to Hunter Biden, the Cuomos and Kennedys!) After losing to a man, Biden, a father figure although a weak one, he has again prevailed over  another woman, who is constitutionally unable to be a father figure. (This is NOT to suggest that women cannot be President and Commander in Chief, but it does take a very special kind of woman like Golda Meir, Joan of Arc, Nicki Halley, Tracey Gabbard, Margaret Thatcher, etc.).

His second victory is vindication of that claim: he is a strong male figure. Morally despicable in a multitude of ways! But he is a man. Putin is right: he did "act like a man when he was shot." Blood running down his face, pumping his fists...that picture is a classic, an icon, an unforgettable image. When I first saw it I said to myself: "This man has this election." The election was a victory of classic virility, however toxic-perverse-decadent, over a raging femininity and a passive, weak masculinity.

The myriad of failures of the Biden/Harris years can all be seen as symptomatic of a deeper, systemic moral infection: the weak, passive male submissive to the raging female in the tradition of King Ahab, Adam, and the negligent father of Hansel and Gretel. Consider:

- Abortion, the defining and absolutely sacred value of the party, is primarily the consequent of the male as indulgent, irresponsible, and unprotective of his woman and child.

- Consider the Biden team! All are intelligent, accomplished and altruistically motivated, but together and individually they convey indecision, weakness, anxiety, defensiveness, caution: Blinken, Mayorkas, Buttigieg, Garland. Contrast Trump's first administration team:  Pence, Pompeo, Ball, Kelly, Mattis, Mnuchin, Tillerson, Carson, DeVos, and Haley. Right of center, they exude confidence, certainty, assertiveness, and gravitas. Moderately right, they functioned as entirely conservative, preserving our institutions despite the volatility of the President. Even more striking contrast is with those currently surrounding Trump: Vance, Musk, R. Kennedy, Tulsi Gabbard, Vivek Ramaswamy. These, the famous "X-men" are immensely talented but also risk-friendly, fearless, unconventional, politically incorrect, unpredictable. The polar opposite of the safety-obsessed Biden team.

- The ill-considered, impulsive and perfidious pullout from Afghanistan was a betrayal of our allies there, the arrogant reaction of an incompetent President, and a signal to the world (Putin, Iran, China) that the USA lacks the will to fight.

- The catastrophe unfolding in Israel/Lebanon is rooted primarily in the machinations of Iran, funded by the indulgent Biden policies.

- The entire Hunter Biden nonsense is simply the failure of an indulgent father to discipline his son.

- The border crisis and increase in crime is a clear failure of the paternal, protective mission of the state.

- The infatuation with homosexuality and transgenderism signals a systemic deprivation in wholesome virility.

- Inflation is in part the undisciplined spending, the failure of prudence, the impulse to indulge, as for example, the loans of students, with little attention to the long term effects on national debt.

- Biden's support for the Ukraine and Israel has been too little too late: not enough to deter Putin, not enough to adequately ensure Israel's decisive victory. He is indecisive, wavering, fearful (of Putin and Iran both.) Chamberlain's peace with Hitler is the accurate historical analogy.

A clear majority of the American people have rejected the slander of fascism, tyranny, misogyny, "patriarchy" and endorsed a man, however flawed and self-centered. Let us pray that he, and all of us, may become iconic, reflective of the love of our heavenly Father: not only strong, but gentle, humble, chaste, wise, protective, generous and sacrificial! Come Holy Spirit: upon all our leaders!


Tuesday, November 5, 2024

Meanderings of an Itinerant Theological Student: a Reminiscence

Shortly before our college graduation, my friend Tim Hull offered me his image of my future: I am on a dirt road in some third world country, kicking a can as I walk, wrapped up in my thinking. At the time, I received this as accurate, appreciative, and affectionate. I was flattered.  I have always cherished the image. I take it to be prophetic of my life.

In sophomore year of college seminary, I received my annual "evaluation" (the judgment of our priest faculty about our progress towards the priesthood) from a marvelous Maryknoll priest, John Halbert:  "You are a nothing! What are you? A nothing! Not a leader, not an athlete, not a trouble-maker, not the popular guy, not the class clown, not the smart one! You are nothing!" He paused in silence. I let it sank in. "That is about right" I said to myself. Through high school I was the same thing: quiet, nothing exceptional, invisible. But I didn't feel bad. Strangely, I felt quietly within a peaceful self-esteem, unrelated to the social perception. I think I was flattered by the attention: he was obviously speaking so  passionately because he expected better of me. Than he asked: "What about your father? Is he a nothing like you." At that I felt a surge of joy and pride within: "No. My father is not a nothing. He is a union organizer. A leader of men." I felt such happiness and affection at the thought of my father, Ray Laracy. And I quietly thought: "I am his son. I will not be a nothing." I have always cherished this memory. Most (for example my wife and children) are horrified to hear of it. 

Upon graduating college in 1969 at the age of 22 I left the seminary. Despite a continuing attraction to the missionary priesthood, I had to overcome my pathological shyness with women and work/live as a man before I could consider returning to the seminary. On my very first date I fell madly in love. My destiny was clear: husband to Mary Lynn and hopefully father of our children.

I had zero career direction. What I had was an urgency to study/share my faith and a desire to befriend the poor. While I courted my Beloved, I pursued these two passions, in an entirely fluid, spontaneous and random manner. I took courses as an nonmatriculated student with the best professors at Union
Theological and Woodstock Jesuit Theology School; I taught theology part time at Xavier HS. and  ESL in the South Bronx. At the time, another college friend described me as an itinerant, mendicant theological student.  

You can imagine that my new wife's mother and father were not thrilled with the career-free, happy-go-lucky, live-simply attitude of their new son-in-law. And the subsequent almost 54 years of marriage have been a dance...not always serene, never boring...between a Groom who is frugal, sparse, minimalist, abstract, detached...and the Bride who is an Earth Mother: free-spirited, fiercely devout, compassionate, mega-generous, artistic, aesthetic, visual, concrete, garden-food-wine-beauty loving. Rarely is the asymmetry, along with the more dominant mutuality and complementarity, of the male/female so pronounced (and sometimes excruciating, especially for the more sensitive one of us.) 

The 18 months in Manhattan between my graduation and marriage, I realize in retrospect, nicely sum up my entire adult life: the love I share with Mary Lynn, study and sharing of our Catholic faith, and our friendship with the poor. 

Other than 25 years working as a supervisor in United Parcel Service to support our family, my adult life has been bereft of career purpose, certification, achievements, and a  professional curriculum vita. In the meritocracy I am close to a nothing. The initiation, with family and friends, of Magnificat Home, now over 15 years old, is another exception. In general, I am amateur, entirely lay and unprofessional, in all things. This in two ways.

Most importantly, I have done what I have done out of love (Latin: Amo), not out of utility or for an exterior goal like money, status, security. 

Secondly, I have done everything at a low level of quality: almost no real excellence. But I have done very many very excellent things...however poorly...and that is my salvation. Somewhere I heard: "lower your expectations, and your performance will rise." I have a low bar of expectation. So I am easily pleased...with myself and with others. "Jack of all trades; master of none."

I have taught elementary school, high school, college, CCD, confirmation, summer bible camps, charismatic prayer meetings. I am expert at none.

I have prayed in city projects, jails, hospitals, psychiatric wards...I am not a certified chaplain.

I have engaged in Cursillo, Marriage Encounter, Charismatic Renewal, Our Lady's Missionaries of the Eucharist, Neocatechumenal Way, Communion and Liberation events, Communio conferences, 12-step groups, sensitivity groups, retreats of all sorts, men's conferences and support groups. But I wander in and out of these ambiances of grace, staying with none.

Perhaps my favorite spiritual classis is The Way of the Pilgrim, the strange, mysterious story of a Russian man who loses family and property to fire and embarks as a wandering pilgrim across Russia. He moves from one holy site or monastery to another; owning nothing; seeking wisdom; encountering all kinds of events, good and bad; always praying the Jesus Prayer: "Lord Jesus Christ, only Son of the living God, have mercy on me, a sinner." I find this story exhilarating in the pilgrim's life of freedom, simplicity, purity, humility, drama, and unlimited serendipity. I want to be that pilgrim!

A similar liberty of spirit is manifest in the classic of Myles Connelly: Mr. Blue. Blue is an eccentric, urban, joyous mystic, living in NYC, friends with the poor, lavishly sharing riches with the hopeless, exploding with praise and exuberance. 

A specific highpoint in my life was  20 years ago when I did the Camino of Santiago of Compostela across northern Spain. I had been delivered by surgery of colon cancer; my children were moving through school and into adulthood; I was happily teaching high school religion. I walked, in solitude, in late summer, in marvelous weather, across the glorious, historic northern Spain. I stopped at every chapel and church to pray. I cherished my solitude. I had a long itinerary of prayers to do each day: 20 decades of the rosary, intentions, litany of Divine Mercy, prayer of the sinner, scripture reading. I had died and gone to heaven! The only time I was lonely was a dinner: inexpensive, delicious, with a cheap but decent carafe of wine. I missed my wife Mary Lynn who would have LOVED the meal and the wine and the price! Sometimes I would walk with someone and talk or eat dinner with people. But mostly I was alone and enjoying it. I never planned ahead. Even walking I only looked for the "pilgrim shells" that marked the way. About 3 or 4 times I wandered off path, but always found my way back. 

So my life, at its best,  has been like the Camino: not programmed ahead of time, spontaneous, light, free. I would like to think much of it in synch with the Holy Spirit...of joy, of mercy, of hope, of abundance. My hidden ambition has always been to emulate the Russian Pilgrim and Mr. Blue. 

From my conception I have been surrounded by love...of family, within the Church, in a prosperous USA. This intensified my temperamental tendency to introversion, solitude, happiness, reflection. Along with this: an aversion to a culture of activism, conspicuous consumerism, extroversion,  competition, status obsession and crude machismo. Perhaps that is why I am prone to reject the bourgeois.  Perhaps that is partly why I will, in about two hours, pull the lever for Trump/Vance! Still a "never-Trumper" and a "double-hater," my statement is defensive of my Catholic way of life and of the lower class against the pretentious, Catholic-despising, sexually liberated, science-adoring progressive hegemony of the professional, managerial, educated elites.

I was conceived just 78 years ago this month. I wonder: what will be my legacy? I hope I will be remembered as a pilgrim, of the Camino, like the little Russian guy; as a  happy friend of poor, like Blue; as a "man of the Church,"  a "catechist," an "echoer" who lived and listened within the womb of Mother Church; as one whose life of love, faith, and joy, shared with his wife, continues and flourishes in his family and friends.

Thursday, October 31, 2024

Catholic Champions of our Age

Today being All Saints Day, we do well to consider the heroic, wise, holy ones who have inspired, guided, instructed, protected and sanctified us over a lifetime, say the last 8 decades since WWII. I will offer 80 names on three lists: the older generation, our parents, often called The Great Generation, (born 1901-27), who lived through the Depression and WWII into the second half of the century; the Silent Generation (1928-45) who have recently passed or are now in their 90s and 100s; and the Boomers (1946-64).

This list is personal, leaning toward theologians/philosophers, saint/mystics, Americans and leaders of lay renewal movements. The criteria is six-fold:

1. Holiness of life.

2. Range and depth of influence.

3. Clarity, creativity and profundity of thought.

4. Fidelity to the Tradition of the Church.

5. That indefinable charm, charism, and splendor that delights, attracts and inspires others.

6. Intimacy with the poor and suffering.

So brilliant, influential theologians whose fidelity to Church teaching was compromised, notably in regard to contraception,  (Rahner, Lonergan, Rohr, Chardin, Metz,  Illich), do not make this list. In some cases, these men are admirable in their piety, erudition and loyalty to the Church, but their followers developed aspects of their thought in unfortunate directions. Of  course we exclude the gifted, influential "dishonorables" of The Scandal: Maciel, Vanier, McCarrick, Rupnik and others.

GREAT GENERATION

St. John Paul II  The incomparable champion of our time, our own El Cid, he embodied to a sublime degree all six values: holiness, influence, intellectual brilliance, fidelity, charism and closeness to the poor.

St. Mother Theresa of Calcutta  By virtue of her heroic service of the poor and her decades long "dark night of the soul" she stands alone in her fortitude and holiness.

St. Padre Pio  He also stands alone for his holiness and the extraordinary manifestations of the supernatural.

Pope Benedict  A true Doctor of the Faith, his teaching, which springs from the humility and holiness of his life, is incomparable in its combination of clarity, simplicity, depth, fidelity, erudition and loveliness.

Hans Urs von Balthasar and Adrienne von Speyr  The partnership of this exceptional mystic and the most creative, encyclopedic, deep Catholic thinker of our time leaves us a boundless legacy of the True, the Good and the Beautiful.

Fulton Sheen, Patrick Peyton, (the early) Thomas Merton, Sheed and Ward.  In their distinct ways, these inflamed the remarkable Catholic American Renewal of 1945-65.

Dorothy Day, Catherine de Hueck Doherty, and Madaleine Delbrell. These fierce, fearless, brilliant, holy women lived intimately with the poor, ever in deep prayer.

St. Jose Maria Escriva, Chiara Lubich, Monsignor Luigi Giussanij. Founders of Opus Dei, Focolari, and Communion and Liberation. A special note of gratitude to Monsignor Lorenzo Albacete, brilliant, eccentric, hilarious, mystical, boundless entertaining leader of CL in the USA.

Bishops and Periti of Vatican II, (especially DeLubac, Congar, Danielou, Boyer, Phillips, Murray, Ostereicher). 

Jacques Maritain, Dietrick von Hildebrand, Jaki, Gilson, Joseph Pieper, Guardini, Marcel, MacIntyre, Dulles, Dawson, Lukacs. Along with others, these retrieved St. Thomas in conversation with what is best in contemporary thought. Surely most underrated, since the Council, is Reginald Garrigou-Lagrange, who mentored John Paul, Chenu, Congar and countless others in his 50 years teaching at the Angelicum as he battled his friend Maritain and the entire Nouvelle Theologue, an amicable fight that continues today.

Caryl Houselander, Flannery O'Connor, Graham Green, Sigrid Undset, Paul Claudel, Tolkien, Bernanos, Mauriac, Walter Percy and others who inflamed the Catholic imagination.

Popes Pius XII, John XXIII, Paul VI who shepherded our Church after the war and into the 70s with striking intelligence, prudence, and piety.

Mother Angelica. This simple, humble, pious nun has had immense impact on the global Church through her miraculous EWTN.

Silent Generation

Kiko Arguello, with Carmen Hernandez, founded the NeoCatechumenal Way, a profoundly traditional yet imaginative and creative expression of our faith.

Ralph Martin and his Partners (Steve Clark, NJ's Fr. Jim Ferry) who guided the Catholic Charismatic Renewal after 1967.

Rene Girard, assisted in the USA by Gil Baile, offers an insightful, refreshing new anthropology of "mimetics" which is imitation as the core of human conduct.

Father Benedict Groeschel, founded with his partners the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal and was his own fresh, sane, loyal voice in the chaos after the Council.

Paul Vitz. Like Fr. Groeschel, an academic who blended sound psychology within a Catholic framework.

David L. Schindler. American protege of John Paul, Benedict and Balthasar; Godfather of the American Communio school and the John Paul Institute in DC; and incomparable Catholic critic of American culture.

Richard Neuhaus, Michael Novak, along with younger George Weigel, are influential Catholic Neoconservatives: defenders of Democratic Capitalism within the Catholic framework.

Father Michael Scanlon T.O.R. built Franciscan University of Steubenville into a Catholic powerhouse and contributed richly to the Catholic Charismatic Renewal. 


Boomers

Giuseppe and Claudi Gennarini who brought the Neocatechumenal Way to the USA.

Disciples of Monsignor Giassani, many of the Italian college students in the 1960s, who built his inspirational vision into Communion and Liberation.

Scott Hahn who has led, in our time, a "neo-Oxford-Movement" of influential Protestant thinkers, pastors and theologians into the Catholic Church and deeply impacted Catholic theology, especially in scripture studies.

Bishop Robert Barron. Master catechist, protege of Balthasar, most influential American bishop of our time.

Heather King. A favorite of mine: contrite, brilliant, charming, eccentric, free-spirited.

We are additionally grateful, in these dark years of Pope Francis, for those who stand clearly and courageously, with Tradition, in correction and witness, resistant to the "synodal" (???) incoherence and confusion of the papacy: hierarchs like Mueller, Chaput, Burke, Zen, and laity like Reno, Arroyo, Royal and others.

Let us also remember the anonymous, little, humble ones who have labored over the decades in the home and parish...in the prolife movement, home schooling, Latin mass community, the new Catholic colleges (Benedictine, Franciscan, Ave Maria, etc.), recent religious orders, and a rich variety of intensive renewal Catholic environments...all breathing the fire of the Holy Spirit in traditional-yet-new manners.

As we survey this marvelous range of personalities we engage the history of salvation in our time and view, not a Catholic "bubble," but a Catholic Cosmos, flawed and fallible for sure, every dynamic and eventful, radiant in the splendor of the True, the Good, the Beautiful...truly the Kingdom of Heaven here on earth. What a marvelous time to be Catholic!

I ask you, dear Reader, who have I missed? Who overrated or underrated?

Let us, in this month of the saints and the souls, give thanks for these holy, heroic souls who have enriched our Church in this, our time! You saints and angels Pray for Us!




Monday, October 21, 2024

The Masculine/Feminine Dynamic in the Renewal Movements

Every person,  community and institution, is an interplay of the masculine and the feminine. "Male and female He created them." About 20 years ago, a Felician nun graphologist studied my handwriting and found "a strong female influence." I took that as descriptive rather than evaluative, not necessarily good or bad: on the one hand we have Eve misleading Adam, the seductive femme fatale, the smothering mother with the Moma's boy; on the other hand we have Mary, our Blessed Mother. But I have always cherished the description. First of all, because I have been VERY close to VERY many VERY fine women. Secondly, because I am convinced that genuine virility at its core is reverence, tenderness, affection, delight, intimacy, receptivity, gentle strength and generosity towards the feminine.  Lastly, I share the Catholic Marian intuition of the vast superiority...spiritual, moral, emotional, social...of the feminine over the masculine. It is male inferiority that requires compensation by a degree of free, generous entrustment by the female; even as it is his evident deficiency that makes him a fitting "representative" of the Father. Peter is so defective that there is little danger of deifying him; but the feminine is in itself so radiant that it lends itself to the pantheism of "Mother Earth."

Conjugal Mysticism

I believe that the singular significant development in late 20th century Catholic theology was the conjugal mysticism of John Paul, Balthasar, Benedict, DeLubac, Speyr and others. This is a re-gestalt of Catholicism, in all essential elements, around the spousal communion of man/woman as the defining analogy of our relationship with God in Christ. In this view, the male/female communion of the male and the female, equal in dignity but distinct, in love is iconic of the inner life of the Trinity, three equal persons in perfect union yet infinitely distinct. The marital union of man/woman assumes at once equality in dignity and immense distinction. It is the highest expression of the love of the Trinity in the created realm. And so, regarding the Church, Father Von Balthasar famously contrasted the Marian (feminine) and Petrine (male, clerical) dimensions of the Church, highlighting the vast superiority, in Catholicism, of the former. 

With that in mind, let's consider the interplay of the masculine/feminine in the renewal, especially lay, movements in the Church in recent history. We'll contrast three types: strongly feminine, balanced and integrated, and predominantly masculine. Our assumption is that accepting the Marian/Petrine mystery, the ideal is a balance that distinguishes and yet values both in a way that is integral, wholesome, chaste, reverent, tender, delighted, and fruitful. If St. Peter, his office and his descendants represent the Petrine/masculine; and Mary is the perfect embodiment of the feminine; than St. John, intimate with Christ and his mother, represents Christian life at its most integral, balanced, complete.

Strongly Feminine

To the Catholic mind, creation in relation to the Creator, Israel in relation to its Lord, the Church in relation to Christ the Groom, and the personal soul in relation to God are all receptive, feminine or bridal. This is clear, if understated, in scripture: Mary as mother of Jesus and the Church, the women close to Jesus even at the foot of the cross, the apostolic primacy of Mary Magdalen after the Resurrection. To the Catholic imagination, male and female are equal in ontological dignity, but distinct: the masculine is representative in its final form as paternity of God; but the feminine in itself is superior morally, spiritually, emotionally.  One of the startlingly novel expressions of the Gospel was the powerful, anti-cultural, extra-patriarchal draw of women to the virginal life. Catholicism, especially in the cult of Mary, is the most "feminine" of all branches of Christianity and probably of all world religions. Protestantism and Islam are especially clear in their spiritual diminishment of femininity. Through most of our Catholic history, the religious feminine has found expression in women's religious orders. The good thing: women found here a realm free of male dominance in which they exercised freedom and agency,  intimate with their spiritual spouse, our Lord Jesus. The bad thing: there was a distance between the feminine and masculine which impoverished both. Additionally, there was a class-like structure which elevated the ordained, male hierarchy over the lower echelon sisters. Wholesome, holy, humble priests and nuns transcended this dysfunctional division. But human nature being what it is (fallen), this was not the norm or the rule. In recent years (since Vatican II) we have the tendency of progressive nuns to (understandable) resentment. And the all male clerical state has always been prone to the immaturity and self-centeredness of the bachelor that fails in reverence, tenderness and affection for the feminine. 

1. Dorothy Day and the Catholic Worker

Day (along with similar 20th century Catholic women: Catherine de Hueck Doherty, Madeleine Delbrel) was fierce, fearless, determined, holy and passionately in love with Christ, his Church and the poor and suffering. They were lay, not religious, and so differ from predecessors like  St. Mother Francis Xavier Cabrini, St. Mother Katherine Drexell, Rose Hawthorne, Mother Margaret Cusak and so many others. Their feminine ferocity, determination, selflessness, courage, confidence, liberty of spirit, and perseverance puts to shame contemporary feminism in it upper class comfort, indulgence, entitlement, sexual license, privilege, misandry, and embryo-phobia. 

Day was a free and intrepid spirit, a voracious reader, a gifted writer, a deep thinker, a holy woman and a huge influence upon American Catholic culture. She was femininity at its most intense and fierce. But, in accord with Catholic tradition, she was receptive of the masculine and the Petrine (hierarchical/sacramental): she received her partner Peter Maurin (notice first name!) as her intellectual mentor, even as she was clearly the leading force of the Catholic Worker. She was in all essential things deferential to the magisterial Church, even as she operated with liberty in the face of disapproval of her political radicalism. In a distinctive manner, she combined flawlessly orthodox Catholic piety (for example, in all things sexual) with far left politics. 

She reigned unchallenged as matriarch of the Catholic Worker, her child. She was no misandrist: she revered Maurin and the Catholic hierarchy and remained close to her lover/baby-father all her life. But her ferocious femininity, expressed in the Catholic Worker, was unbalanced by a comparable masculinity. We see this specifically in her pacifism and anarchism. Both these ideologies are lacking in masculine intuitions about the necessity of lethal force to restrain predators and the need for law, regulation and authority in human community. And so, the Catholic Worker, strong in maternity but weak in paternity, in pure form, and extended broadly, leads to chaos and vulnerability. 

She, along with her soul mates like Doherty and Delbrel, embody a flaming, inspirational femininity that is nevertheless receptive of, if not quite balanced by the masculine/petrine/paternal.

2. Chiara Lubich and the Focolari

A delightful documentary on Chiara,  available streaming on the EWTN channel, strikingly portrays the fierce-but-feminine heroine, in war torn Italy 1943, with her small group of girl friends, courageously serving the poor and suffering. She is intensely devout, receptive of guidance from spiritual directors and ecclesial authorities who are initially hostile and disrespectful. The fierce, fearless, radiant, holy femininity she and her friends demonstrate easily transcends the violence of the fascists as well as traditional Italian machismo. In a memorable scene, many are gathered in an underground shelter during bombing when a violent argument erupts between two men. Chiara stands observing; clearly incapable of physically intervening; when a half-asleep drunk starts quietly singing a sweet Italian melody that could have been a hymn or a child's tune. Chiara is sensitive to it; she listens; quietly joins in; gradually others, mostly women and children, also join in. Eventually a peace descends upon all, including the combatants.

The word "Focolari" derives from the Italian word for "hearth." This signals the nurturing elements of warmth, nurture, enclosure.

She is grilled mercilessly by the Vatican office (formerly the Inquisition) in a manner dismissive, contemptuous, and judgmental. But her clarity, certainty, and humility win the day: finally the suspicious Cardinals grand the goodness of the movement.

The Focolari movement has permission from the Vatican to be led, always, by a woman. In granting this unusual permission, John Paul acknowledged its "Marian" nature. I have had little personal contact with this group over the years. But their exclusive (feminine) focus upon unity and love did not appeal to my masculine psyche. However the striking documentary convinced me of the authenticity of this charism and mission.

Masculine Movements

By contrast, consider masculine, largely clerical rather than lay, movements. 

1. Franciscan Friars of the Renewal.  These are a favorite of mine as I live near NYC where they originated; have been in close contact with them over the years; and I have admired their founders, especially Fr. Benedict Groschel. I view them as the marines or navy seals of Catholicism: the most militant, combative, aggressive. What the Jesuits were over 400 years. While too much of the priesthood has become emasculated since the Council, this group is the opposite extreme. They live poorly; they serve the very poor; they evangelize clearly, energetically, certainly, boldly. They are Culture Warriors par excellence: intrepid and lucid in articulation of our faith and renunciation of error. Their devotion to Mary and Church as bride of Christ bring a feminine balance. But arguably, it is not adequate to offset a kind of machismo common in all-male groups whether police, sailors or friars.

2. Opus Dei and Legionnaires of Christ.  These are quite similar: Hispanic, clerical, masculine, traditional. Again, the Marian dimension is recognized in the mode of class Catholic piety, but that is 
hardly adequate to modulate male tendencies to a moralistic, rigid clericalism. 

Personally I have had minimum personal contact with Opus Dei but I identify it with knowledgeable, upper class, confident priests. I cannot recall any women associated with it.

I have a fair personal acquaintance with Regnum Christi, specifically the woman's division which for a time attempted to recruit my own teenage daughters. They were unfailingly elegant, articulate, devout, attractive young women. (In that sense, my daughters would have fit right in...in my opinion😀.) With time, however, two specific problems became obvious.

First, their engagements (meetings, retreats) were clearly intended to recruit into their organization. There was little sense of strengthening the vocation of one who was not moving in their direction. In that sense it reflected a "cult-like" (but certainly not a cult as they are entirely Catholic) impulse to define themselWves as the "elect" against a world, and much of the Church, that is in deep darkness.

Secondly, more pertinently in regard to our topic, the men and women were kept absolutely apart from each other. This went well beyond a prudent concern to protect chastity against weakness of the flesh. It reflected a toxic suspicion, a distrust, a paralyzing anxiety about men being with women. It of course made complete sense when we learned the full details of the sexual depravity of their founder. 

In that sense, they present a negative model of the inter-gender dynamic. However, I hasten to add: the light shines quite brightly, especially in the darkness. And we do marvel: while a good tree bears good fruit, it is not unknown that a bad tree bears good fruit and a good tree bad fruit. My daughter did her doctorate in psychology at the Institute for Psychological Science, founded by the Legionnaires, where she enjoyed wholesome, inspiring relations among male and female faculty and students.

3.  Charismatic Renewal

With this movement I have personal familiarity as my wife and I participated vigorously in the 1970s, when it was developing and expanding in the United States. In large part, under the leadership of Ralph Martin and Steve Clark, in Ann Arbor, it was an infusion of Pentecostal and Evangelical spirituality into Catholicism: prayer in tongues, deliverance from evil spirits, miraculous healings, prophesies and inspirations, strong spiritual authority and discipleship, and (importantly for our purposes) very strong distinction in gender roles. In all of this bold supernaturalism, of course, it was a powerful reaction against the naturalist, progressive forces dominant in the Church after the Council, including feminism, hatred of patriarchy and the deconstruction of gender.

The core of this view is the Pauline intuition of Christ's sacrifice of himself on the cross as the inner form the spousal love of the husband and the bridal Church's reception of this love as informing the free, deliberate, serene entrustment by the bride of herself to her groom. This distinction, John Paul especially emphasized,  was always in the context of Paul's prior and primary exhortation that the spouses defer to each other mutually, equally. At the time, I received this teaching as an encouraging call to emulate Christ in generous, strong-but-gentle sacrifice.

This view is, obviously, to the culturally progressive mind, at best incoherent and unintelligible, at worst a smokescreen for patriarchy as toxic male oppression and misogyny. The language used was not helpful: male "headship." This word clearly implies subordination, inequality, and diminishment of the feminine. 

This model was problematic for our own marriage. My wife despised the term "head" and the subordination entailed. I consciously embraced the ideal of emulating Christ in humility, generosity and sensitivity. But intentions do not translate directly to deed. We already had a power inequality in our marriage: I am three years older, firstborn of nine, confident and assertive in my views and preferences, and comfortable with authority and hierarchical structures (Church, schools, UPS where I worked). Without deliberation or intention, I tended to spontaneously overwhelm my wife who was by nature less certain, secure, confident, assertive and more generous. In a subtle manner, this teaching tended to aggravate this dynamic of unequal power. My wife preferred the language of St. John Paul II who called for "mutual submission" between the spouses. We are now married almost 54 years and continue to struggle with the mystery of our marriage: pride, selfishness, insecurity, control...compassion, sensitivity, trust, generosity, humility.

Moving into the 1980s, we ourselves detached from charismatic renewal as our prayer group ended, we took up normal Catholic parish/family life, and the movement diminished as a cultural force. However, a small number of charismatics joined together in intensive "covenant communities" including locally the People of Hope and the Community of God's Love in the Newark area. These followed the gender philosophy of the "Sword of the Spirit" that became increasingly extreme and countercultural. In the strongest forms, this was shamelessly countercultural, especially in restrictions on women: in higher education they were directed to education and nursing, appropriate sports included gymnastics and dance but not softball or basketball, skirts (no pants!) were to be below the knee, and so forth. In our own area, northern NJ, a major controversy erupted between the People of Hope and Archbishop Peter Gerity. This division continued for many years but has diminished as the community is now in very good standing with the archdiocese.

From a distance, I followed this drama with great interest, The rejection of the monotony of androgyny was a relief, but clearly an overreaction. We raised our own family(I like to think) so as to blend the contemporary with the classically Catholic,  avoiding the extremism of the covenant communities, in tune with conjugal mysticism and the following two movements which have influenced us.

Happy Marriage...Balanced, Integrated, Mutually Enchanted and Reverent...of Man and Woman

1. Communion and Liberation, out of Italy in the 1960s, is striking in the wholesome, free, relaxed, trusting, creative relationships between men and women. There is no trace of the suspicion and anxiety of Regnum Christi, nor of the stereotyping of the charismatic at its worst. We observe this every year at the jubilant New York Encounter which is a high energy event overflowing with attractive, intelligent, educated, devout but sophisticated young adults. More personally, we know it through our daughter who is a member of the Memores Domini, a community of women (and separately men) living, in community, the evangelical promises (poverty, chastity, obedience) while pursuing secular careers. From the founder, Monsignor Luigi Giussani, a renaissance man of our time, an extraordinary confidence, optimism, and trust in regard to culture, the Church, and specifically the serendipitous chemistry between the masculine and the feminine.

Their movement has not been free of the sexual scandal that seems to plague the entire Church. Arguably, their positivity needs correction by a prudent vigilance regarding (classically) the world, the flesh and the devil. Nevertheless, they are inspiring and encouraging in the joy, vigor, dignity, strength and generosity they radiate in the interaction of men and women.

The strongest evidence that the Sword of the Spirit and the covenant movement has gained some equilibrium is Amy Comey Barrett, so impressive in intellect, influence, character and luminous femininity...a product of and current participant in the People of Praise community in South Bend: "by their fruits you will know them."

2.  Neocatechumenal Way, out of Spain in the 1960s, is a contrast to Communion and Liberation, but similar in its wholesome balance in the male/female dynamic. If CL is confident, dialogic, and respectful in the encounter with the broader culture, this "way" is defensive, vigilant, militant. It is perhaps the strongest expression of the famed "Benedict Option" as a qualified "retreat" from society to create a powerful intentional Catholic community, even more intense than the charismatic covenant communities. But there is a wholesome, balanced mutuality of reverence in tenderness in the husband and wife dynamic. The catechist (the real leaders) are lay, prominently including married couples. While there is a strong sense of the paternal and maternal roles (especially since they have very large families), there is no diminishment of the feminine, no hint of toxic patriarchy. Rather, in the communities (several) that I have personally known, the strength of the women is quite striking.  For example, my own catechists were Frank and Jeanne Palumbo. Frank was a fireman who charged into the world trade center on 9/11 (straight into the arms of God) and left Jeanne with 11 children, including a newborn. Frank was a strong, impressive man; Jeanne was a quiet powerhouse...understated, intelligent, calm, reassuring. Their mutuality-in-strength was emulated by the catechist that succeeded them: David and Carmen. My observation was that the men did more of the talking; but the women were more intense and forceful when it mattered. This is neither a patriarchy, nor a matriarchy. Rather, the large families and expanding communities that they tend require comparable, but distinct strengths from both partners. It is now my delight to observe my son and his wife emulating this spiritual dignity.

Conclusion: Credit to (Some of) the Boomers

Every marriage, family, generation, society, community and relationship is a dense, creative, complex, eventful interaction of the masculine and the feminine. Perhaps none has been as chaotic and dramatic as my own generation that came of age in the 1960s. I have considerable shame as our generation largely ingested the toxicities of the Sexual Revolution and Cultural Progressivism. However, as I review the surprising, inspiring developments of my lifetime, I see that select groups of our generation have had immense influence, for the good, on the Church and world. Crucial movements that have influence our marriage and family came out of the 1960s: CL in Italy around 1968, Neocatechumenal Way out of Spain around 1962, and the Charismatic Renewal in Duquesne in 1967...all very close to Vatican II. These were all carried by elites of our generation: CL was really started by the college students influenced by Monsignor Giussani; the movement of Kiko and Carmen was brought to the USA by Giuseppe and Claudia Generelli who are about my age; and Charismatic Renewal was led by Steve Clark and Ralph Martin, young adults at the time. 

While not all of my children are deliberate disciples of these schools, I am delighted that they all enact the same basic Catholic values in their distinctive marriages and families. And it is my fervent hope that my grandchildren, as they approach and enter adulthood, will receive, cherish, protect, develop and share the rich inheritance we have been given.