This essay was inspired by the post by my friend Stephen Adubato in his Substack "Cracks in Postmodernity," "Our Priests are in Trouble: we gotta help them." With his customary sensitivity, insight and good humor he considers the crisis in the American priesthood. He sees this primarily in our ordinary diocesan clergy who lack the support, accountability, and encouragement enjoyed by those in religious orders, or close to lay renewal movements or others in strong ethnic communities. I find his diagnosis to be accurate. It caused me to consider the nature of Catholic priesthood and its condition in our time. By numbers alone, we are in crisis.
The solitude that defines masculinity (in contrast to the connectedness inherent in femininity) is intensified in the priest. The primal aloneness of Adam was relieved by his ecstatic embrace of Eve "at last...bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh." And so it is with the husband/father. But the Catholic priest, in the violence of sacrifice ("make holy"), renounces that communion. He emulates Jesus alone in the desert and in Gethsemane. There is a fundamental loneliness about the priesthood. A solitude with God and for the Church, bride of Christ.
Let's Go to the Movies
Consider:
- the fornicator-whiskey-martyr-priest in Graham Greene's The Power and the Glory,
- Karl Malden raging at Johnny Friendly's thugs in On the Waterfront,
-the humble, dignified missionary Gregory Peck in Keys to the Kingdom,
- the virile Jesuit Jeremy Irons facing down the ferocious Robert DeNiro in The Mission,
- the depresed alcoholic curate of Edge of Sadness, [this is a book, not a movie.]
- Montgomery Cliff heroically defending the seal of confession in Hitchcock's Confession,
- Alec Guinness's good natured Monsignor Quixote,
- Javier Bardem's tormented Fr. Quintana chastely comforting a ravishing Olga Kurylenko in Into the Wonder,
- Spenser Tracey's Father (now Venerable) Flannigan of Boy's Town,
- Richard Burton's Becket,
- Mark Walberg's endearing Father Stu,
- Max von Syndow's seasoned cleric in The Exorcist,
- France's classic Monsieur Vincent,
- Raul Julia's breathtaking Romero,
- the levitating St. Joseph of Cupertino in The Reluctant Saint,
- another Gregory Peck as the historic Vatican rescuer of Jews in Scarlet and the Black,
- De Niro's careerist cleric facing off his tough detective brother Robert Duval in True Confessions,
- G.K. Chesterton's charming Father Brown,
- Pat Obrien mentoring gangster Jimmy Cagney in Angels with Dirty Faces,
- Bing Crosby and Ingrid Bergman in The Bells of St. Mary's.
That's 20 off the top of my head. In each we see a man, a priest, standing alone, heroically.
[If you, dear Reader, have not seen at least 10 of these films, you are not an authentic, certified Catho-Cinephile like myself!]
Loneliness of the Contemporary Priest
Solitude as configuration to Christ and gift of self to the Church is heroic and holy, But on the negative side, the temptation is to the life of a bachelor: self-centered, ungenerous, detached from the feminine, sterile...however charming, educated, and refined. This toxicity is heightened today as priests are more isolated than ever. In my own parish we have two churches, two rectories, two priests...each lives alone in his own rectory, one mile away from each other.
It was not always this way. In the Church of my childhood, thriving postwar urban America, a typical parish had four or more priests. The pastor was probably well beyond his prime, enjoying his role and a community he had known for decades. He left the running of the large parish (school, nuns, organizations, devotions) to his competent second-in-charge, probably in his 50s or 60s. The youngest priest worked with youth, the school, catechesis, CYO and sports. There might be additional priests with particular ministries, responsibilities and interests. At its best it was a wholesome brotherhood.
Today the 1-priest rectory has become normal. A young priest who shows himself to be competent and reliable will be given charge of a parish within a few years, without the benefit of years of mentoring, friendship and experience.
To survive and thrive as a priest today one needs the moral integrity, resilience, fortitude and wisdom of the 20 priest heroes of the movies mentioned above. Happily I have known many such priests, over the course of my lifetime. Studies also show a good measure of happiness and wholeness among our priests. The quantity of priests is down; but the quality is high. We are in crisis. But it is not catastrophic. On the whole, I am less critical than my friend Stephen Adubato...edgy, urban, avant-garde, counterculture, anti-bourgeois, no lover of anything suburban.
Society of Jesus and of Maryknoll
Besides diocesan priests here in Newark NJ, over the years, I have befriended many Jesuits and Maryknolleers. In the individualism of their spirituality and charism they are more like secular clerics than the mendicants and monks. Their focus is not primarily on the shared life of charity and prayer, but apostolic action. Maryknoll was originally committed to the conversion of pagans but shifted after the War to corporal works of mercy with the poor. This, joined with their American pragmatism, inclined them post-1965 to sympathy with leftist politics. Their intimacy with the poor, however, has ensured a closeness to Christ. The Jesuits, with their focus on education and upper echelon academics, were even more vulnerable to the errors of the Cultural Revolution. Both are prone, in complex ways, to the fragilities of isolation and loneliness associated with the bachelor life.
The Thriving Priest
What qualities are evident in happy, wholesome priests?
1. Personal holiness, deep prayer life, intimacy with our Lord Jesus.
2. Emotional balance, integrity, clear masculine identity, ease in deferring to and wielding authority, substantial if not impeccable freedom from deep-seated compulsions around sex, approval, insecurity, money, status, alcohol/drugs.
3. Realistic, honest reckoning with his own personal weakness and need for God's grace.
4. Solid, chaste, brotherly friendships with other priests.
5. Love for Catholicism in all its richness: liturgical/sacramental, theological, moral, social.
6. Wholesome relationships with laity, including women.
7. Support from family of origin or surrogate.
There are other qualities...administrative ability, personal charm, intellectual capacity and erudition... nice but not necessary, accidental but not essential to the priesthood.
We continue to benefit from such priests: wholesome, virile, confident, steadfast, sober, balanced, and independent. But their numbers are decreasing. They were common in the prosperous post-war American Church of large families, thick ethnic communities, and Catholic revival. Particularly among us Irish American Catholics.
The Holy Spirit works in different ways: some predictable; some random and counterintuitive. We see priestly vocations coming from non-religious families; from conversions out of dark lives; and later in life. Not a few are gifted, devout, sincere but afflicted with psychological disorders and compulsions. These, when not deep-seated and when countervailed by strengths, need not be invincible impediments. We need such numerically. But we also benefit to the degree they confess and surrender to God's healing grace. Familiarity with their weaknesses, failings and addictions make them, for us, "wounded healers."
We cannot depend upon the paradigm of priest as lone ranger without Tonto; as Shane who rides into town, kills the bad guys, rescues the widow and child, and rides lonesome into the sunset; as John Wayne who rescues his Natalie Wood niece from the Indians, in The Searchers, and moves on in a mysterious solitude.
Communion in Intimacy, Transparency, Accountability, and Support
The contemporary priest needs, not independence-autonomy-isolation, but a strong network of support, candor, vulnerability, and accountability. This can take many forms: friendship, family, spiritual direction, priest support groups, counseling and therapy. It is particularly strong in:
- Twelve step groups. These are absolutely necessary for the priest enslaved by addiction. As an ealier generation benefited from AA priests, so today, with the pandemic of pornography, not to mention the homosexual priest abuse scandal, priests benefit from Sexaholics Anonymous, a program that precisely mirrors Catholic understanding of chastity and sexual sobriety.
- Lay Renewal Movements. Outstanding here is the Neocatechumenal Way which fosters an environment of startling honesty. Openly, in the company of men and women, participants speak candidly of personal struggles with chastity, within family and marriage, and other. With my own Irish Catholic background, I was taken aback at first. But I could see that it represents a certain wholesome "triumph of the therapeutic." I understand it is good for priests.
The priest's role is to represent Christ as teacher, authority, presider over liturgy, leader-king, and moral exemplar. This is a heavy burden to carry continually. "Walking" as a brother in the "Way" provides a space of freedom, honesty, accountability and encouragement.
A different reality is operative in Communion and Liberation which does not provide the same intensity but the lighter, fresh, liberating, wholesome, serene positivity of founder Luigi Giusanni in the male/female friendship.
- Some religious orders. My family has close familiarity with the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal, a young order, birthed nearby in NYC, which has a strong charism: closeness to the poor, fervor in evangelization, flawless loyalty to Catholic teaching, an ethos of priestly virility, embrace of much that is new-yet-Catholic in the Church. These friars cultivate a brotherly intimacy that is strengthening. By contrast, many of the older orders, robust in 1965, now in decline, retain the lonesomeness-autonomy of the lone ranger without Tonto.
Ethic Parishes? In the above, I entirely agree with Stephen's post. Not so much with regard to ethnic parishes. Such are a thing of the past. I have spent my entire adulthood in Jersey City, close to NYC, Newark and the Oranges. Ethnic parishes are a relic of the past. Stephen is nostalgic and sentimental here, attached to the idealized urban Italian Catholicism of his memorable grandfather. What is remarkable, however, especially with Italians but also us Irish, Polish and others: despite the baptism into bourgeois mediocrity of suburban life, secularity, careerism, consumerist materialism, sexual liberalism, upper class conservatism, and even the mafia, ethnic Catholicism retains a deep grip on the soul. My experience with lapsed Catholics, non-practicing and absent from the sacraments for decades, is that they retain intense, deep if sporadic attachment to the faith of their families. This cannot be unrelated to the indelible seal received at baptism. It will serve them, especially with the last rites, at death and particular judgment.
Seminaries now require a new "propaedeutic year" of formation in personal spiritual and emotional health, before theology. My hope is that a key focus is on the building of a permanent network.
Communion with the Bishop
A pronounced element of our priestly crisis, clear in recent studies, is the disconnect from the bishop. In wake of the Dallas Charter, priests distrust their "father figure" as the sheriff, prosecutor and judge of wrongdoing. Fr. Tom Guarino of Seton Hall has carried on the prophetic mission of Avery Cardinal Dulles in challenging this injustice.
I see the problem as systemic, not the personal fault of our bishops who are on the whole decent, intelligent, competent, loyal priests. The Church has exploded malignantly in institutions like schools, hospitals, social care and other. The bishop is in fact the CEO of a multi-millionaire organization. The time has come for the hierarchical/institutional Church to divest, surrender the works of mercy to the laity, and focus upon the actual purpose of the priesthood as: announcement of the Word, celebration of liturgy and sacraments, fostering of holiness, and strengthening of communion in charity.
Conclusion
Two urgencies present themselves:
- Cherish, in gratitude, our priests who sacrifice themselves to bring us Christ in Word and Sacrament.
- Pray for our priests, pray for more priests, pray for our own children/grandchildren to answer the call to priesthood and religious life.
Thank you Lord for the priesthood and our sacramental life.
Thank you for each of our priests.
Sanctify them with your Holy Spirit.
Send us more priests and consecrated.
Choose from our own family men and women to serve you in this special way.